Resting and Reflecting Before Re-Aligning

Since I last posted regularly, I’ve written three books (two adult mysteries and one juvenile nonfiction book), traveled, and been sick. The holidays blurred by, to be honest, because one of the book deadlines was December 20th. Two days ago I finished the second adult mystery.

One good thing about being sick is all the time you’re forced to be still: in waiting rooms, in recovery at home, in the night. Quiet time. Thinking time. Evaluating time.

HIATUS

What should happen when you take a hiatus from your regular life? [Hiatus = time off.] Among other things, I disappeared from my blog, newsletter and social media. I dropped out of several things at church for a while, and–this was the hardest–had to say ‘no’ a lot to my girls regarding babysitting my grandchildren.

An article, sustainable trauma recovery: taking a hiatus boosts MOTIVATION, by Robyn Mourning explains a healing process well. Her three-point recovery plan included rest, reflection, and getting re-aligned. A hiatus can be months away from your normal routine, or a week off, a weekend, half a day, or an hour long.

How should you spend your hiatus, if you want to feel the full benefits?

REST

Rest: take a breather, relax, stretch, just be.

At first, this was all I could do. I sat…on the couch, in bed with a book, in the backyard swing, down the trail by the pond. I wasn’t even thinking much. Not reading either. Catatonic mostly. Sometimes I walked rather zombie-like, appalled at how winded I was just walking! (I won a 5K race in my age group two years ago.) The walking and stretching helped get rid of the headaches and backaches from sitting too long. Being in nature is also very healing for me.

REFLECT

Reflect: become aware of your progress, what you’ve done so far, notice any big or small shifts that are providing hope and fostering resiliency.

I knew I was making progress when I wanted to read again and could focus and stay awake to read. I had a stack of fiction books (over 20) and nonfiction books (25) that had piled up this past year, unread. I also began to reflect on how I had managed to get myself into such a situation so that I didn’t repeat it.

Most of the problem was that I had scheduled myself with no margin at all last year. If NOTHING extra had come up, there wouldn’t have been a problem. But lots of extra things did occur, and being sick so often wasn’t on my calendar either. It was one of those “life happens when you’ve made other plans” kind of years. No one’s fault. My planning wasn’t wrong, but it had been unwise in the extreme not to build in any margin.

RE-ALIGN

Re-align: get re-aligned (or strengthen your alignment) with your unique purpose, your values, your goals.

Upon resting and reflecting, I realized there were a few important things I had let go of when things got so busy. One was proper exercise and sleep. One was time with friends. Another included a couple family members I lost touch with. So it was then time to re-align. I used a couple of tools for this.

One tool was the book Living Forward by Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy, which is new. It came with many, many free online resources, including an excellent test which shows what parts of your life are working well–and which parts you’re drifting in, just trying to keep your head above water without being sucked down by the undertow. It pinpointed two more places I’d let slide without realizing it. Doing the Life Plan has helped me get my values re-aligned with how I spend my time.

The other book that is helping me get re-aligned is When the Body Says NO: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection by Gabor Mate, M.D. It has been eye-opening, not at all what I expected. I’m still learning from this one.

REST. REFLECT. RE-ALIGN. You’ll be glad you did. 

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6 Responses to Resting and Reflecting Before Re-Aligning

  1. Kelly Irvin says:

    I’m so glad you’re feeling better. Perfect timing for this post. I will have time for resting and reflecting in the near future (I hope, depending on test results) after an upcoming surgery. Not jumping into projects that would have deadlines in the next few months has been really hard. So tempting! I will be praying for your continued recovering. Hope to see you at writers’ meetings in the future . . . .

    • kwpadmin says:

      Kelly, I thought of you when writing this. I still have another test to go, and this time I’ve carved out some rest time after it, for a change. We learn, don’t we? “Not jumping into projects” is very hard! I hope we are both active in the meetings again soon. You’re in my prayers for your upcoming procedure. :-)

  2. Thank you. I have slowly been renewing myself the past three years. More so, since my husband died November 15, 2015. I have pulled away from everything to stay close to God to find the peace, that I want more than anything. I need to heal my mind, soul and body. It is working. I am happy.

    • kwpadmin says:

      My goodness, you’ve been on a tough road in recent years. I’m glad you are finding peace and healing now. Sometimes it takes quite a while. But it’s sure worth pursuing, isn’t it? :-)

  3. Kristi, This is such an important post. My colleague & I were talking just the other day about the missing piece in our work lives–reflection. This applies to personal life, too. Taking time to reflect and process at the end of a project or event or even a day or week really helps a person keep a perspective and know how to improve and what to let go. All best to you as you re-align!

    • kwpadmin says:

      Jane, thank you. Yes, without the time/energy/head space to do the reflection (in whatever form you do this), there’s no proper re-alignment, and you keep drifting off course further and further. The sooner I get back on track, the less energy it will require later to fix things! :-) And certainly one’s life satisfaction goes way up when you are back to spending quality time in areas with more purpose (and more pleasure too!)

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